You’re reading this article that’s fine but I’m damn sure that you already know How To Be Confident, you’re just finding a way to boost your confidence level.
And, in this post, I’m going to share with you some robust ways to maintain your confidence level in any situation.
Ever happened to you, even after preparing so much for a speech or something but as soon as you saw lots of crowd in front of you then BOOM!
Everything goes vanish from your mind like there’s nothing anything before. RIGHT?
You start feeling nervous and you forget each and everything that you’ve prepared.
Actually one thing I’d want to tell you that you’ve not yet forgotten anything, you’ve just created temporary thoughts in your mind that is blocking your way to go ahead.
This happens when you won’t train yourself out of your comfort zone.
When suddenly you face such a situation you start creating questions in your mind like:
What if I got a rejection?
Will people make fun of me?
What if I fail to perform well?
And such questions give a massive boost to your nervousness and you start feeling unconfident for that moment.
Confidence will not grow instantly until and unless you won’t train yourself on internal and external factors.
To be confident in any situation you have to WORK on both internal and external factors… and in this article, I’m going to show you exactly what they are.
How To Be Confident With Just 9 Tips
Table Of Content
- 1. Forget About Your Past
- 2. Boost Inner Self-Esteem
- 3. Challenge Yourself
- 4. Always Keep Learning
- 5. Decent Look Is The Key
- 6. Fix Overall Body Posture
- 7. Build Trust With Eye Contact
- 8. Start Taking Small Steps
- 9. Face With Positivity
Internal Factors To Become More Confident
You’ll never be so fearless while speaking or doing any activity if you’re not strong from inside.
If you’re not confident and self-motivated from inside you won’t happily perform the present task.
Internal factors play a very important role in boosting your confidence level while doing any activity which makes it a must-do step in this overall article.
So, let’s dive right in.
1. Forget About Your Past
Gone over some days, months or years you might be performed some activity but that activity pushes you towards demotivation and embarrassment.
It can be any activity which you might fail to perform because of low confidence level like:
You might be got rejected from your previous interview.
You’ve not performed well on the stage in front of many people.
In order to go ahead and be confident in your upcoming days then you must have to throw these garbage thoughts from your mind into the trash.
You must have to find out the root cause of your current scenario and cut it with a knife of self-belief.
Forget each and every bad experience from your past life so that it won’t disturb your upcoming performance.
Have a close look at these lines:
“Altering the state of mind changes out our behavior.”
Get detach from your bad experiences as soon as possible.
It’s my humble request that please don’t carry forward your past experience with you.
Just like after our hair gets shed we get brand new hair… you will lose your confidence in some cases but you will gain the new experience from it.
Never ever QUIT! Instead, use that experience to hone yourself.
So, from now don’t get scared from failure & embarrassment because they will give you a chance to get you successful in upcoming days.
2. Boost Inner Self-Esteem
If you want a healthy tip to permanently increase your confidence level then you’re in the right section.
Read this line twice:
Self-confidence is the most valuable factor which influences your overall confidence level in every situation.
One small hack to build your self-confidence is to boost your self-esteem.
You’ll be a complete beast in confidently performing any given task if you love the way you are right now.
If you build your self-esteem before doing any activity then there’s no one to stop you from being confident in any scenario.
Just think about it:
If you don’t even have faith & trust in yourself then how you expect others get influenced by your words or body language.
The following quote is a perfect fit for this section:
“Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand-break on.”
That’s the reason falling in love with yourself is always be the first step towards success and happiness.
So, plug it into your mind that :
Before providing value to other people first start respecting your own value.
3. Challenge Yourself
This section will not only help you to be confident but also it helps you to get rid of HESITATION.
You’ll definitely get the answer as soon as you move forward in this section.
But first, let me ask you a couple of questions.
Do you under-estimate yourself each and every day?
Or, do you think like you don’t have any skills in your body?
If YES, then stop doing this thing now!
One more question for you:
Did you know who is your real competitor and real tutor?
It’s you only.
The only person in this whole universe who can make you a better version of yourself is YOU!
“Work harder on yourself than you do on your job.”Jim Rohn
Remember, the power to do anything is within you… you just need to pull it out from your body.
So, stop under-estimating something which you’ve not yet discovered.
One small thing you can do to be confident (fast) is:
Open video recorder to record a 5 min video of yourself.
You’ve to choose a random topic & speak about that topic for 5 mins to complete the video.
Note: Make sure that the recorder is capturing your whole body and not just your face.
As soon as you complete the video, watch that video without sound (mute it).
Because for now you just have to focus on your body language and nothing else.
Watch the video carefully and have a close look at your facial expressions, body language, and actions.
If you think it’s dull then improve that in the next video.
See how much you’re confident, rate your overall expression and body language.
After that, watch the same video once again from starting but now you can unmute it.
This time you have to focus on the audio quality… closely listen to the way you’re speaking in the video.
Check out your thoughts, where you gain strength and where you got weak and improve wisely in the next video.
And, if you want fast results then,
Repeat this process at least 4 times in a month because you only have to take responsibility for your own progress.
4. Always Keep Learning
Even after successfully performing a few tasks with confidence, do not think as you have finally become confident.
Of course, you are becoming confident but never ever stop further learning, because life never stops teaching.
It’s also one of the major habits of successful people.
Almost 90% of people are unconfident not because they are, but due to a lack of proper knowledge.
People failed in an interview because one question always keeps rolling in their mind, “What if I don’t know the answer?”
Whenever you are going to do any task, make sure that you’ve acquired enough knowledge about it.
Always keep yourself in learning mode.
Gaining confidence for a short period of time is a useless thing, try to find a permanent solution for it.
As soon as you start consuming knowledge from various sources your mindset gets trained to deal with any situation in your life.
Read books, watch videos, get guidance from an expert but don’t stop learning and acquiring new knowledge.
“Learning is the only thing the mind never exhausts, never fears, and never regret.”Leonardo Da Vinci
External Factors To Become More Confident
Now that you have successfully gained strength from inside of your body, it’s time to look for some external factors to become even more confident.
If you’re fully confident from inside then external factors will act as a backbone for your internal factors and give a slight boost to your confidence level.
So, let’s dive right in.
5. Decent Look Is The Key
It doesn’t matter whether you’re a boy, girl, men or women everyone feels a small percentage of confidence boost while speaking or doing any activity when one can dress well.
The reason for adding this point in the article is:
Sometimes even if we are not confident from the inside, a good shoe or dress can also unknowingly boost our confidence level.
Honestly, I don’t know the science behind it but,
According to a study published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, shows how clothing affects the mind.
In my personal opinion, there is a direct correlation between what we wear and what we think.
But, don’t get me wrong here.
By decent look, I don’t mean you have to buy luxury watches or expensive outfits.
Just go with your favorite color or buy clothes that suit your style that’s more than enough. 🙂
Always shop for something which you can easily afford to buy because…
“The goal is to become RICH, not to look RICH.”
As we all know that 80% of communication is non-verbal which means even if you don’t speak a single word from your mouth a person can judge you by seeing your external appearance.
That’s the reason you also have to make sure that you’re clean and comfortable before performing any act.
6. Fix Overall Body Posture
Being confident is not just about speaking in English with the flow, it’s about how you deliver your thought and message with your overall body language.
No matter how much you’re confident while speaking, you’ll never be considered as a confident guy if your body posture is dull.
All you have to do is to position yourself confidently while the conversation is going on.
You can follow the points below:
- Keep your back, spine straight while talking with somebody.
- Don’t angle your body and look right into the eyes of that person.
- Stand up straight and don’t slouch.
- Avoid looking at the ground and keep your chin up.
Awesome lines by Joseph Pilates:
“Good posture can be successfully acquired only when the entire mechanism of the body is under control.”
So, Fix it ASAP!
7. Build Trust With Eye Contact
Sometimes it happens even if you were fully confident from inside still you failed to gain people’s trust.
Why does this happen?
It’s because you have to understand that no one gonna blindly keeps trust in your words easily.
First, you need to win that TRUST!
“To be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved.”
Now the question is how?
One of the simplest and most effective methods to make everyone get trust in you is by maintaining eye contact while having conversations.
Maintaining eye contact is one of the simple & robust techniques to build a deeper connection and trust.
Eye contact is necessary because it evokes positive feelings and highlights that you are interested in the convo.
Research also shows that people with high self-esteem break eye contact less frequently as compared to people with low self-esteem who broke eye contact more often.
If you’re reading this post then I don’t want you to be ranked in the list of low self-esteem category.
There’s no rocket science behind you can easily implement it, so give a TRY!
8. Start Taking Small Steps
You won’t learn to swim until and unless you do not jump into the water.
If you’re a very shy type of person or you don’t like to talk with anyone then you need to slightly get out from your comfort zone.
Growth never happens inside the comfort zone.
“The quickest way to acquire self-confidence is to do exactly what you’re afraid to do.”
I highly recommend that you should start participating in small activities like giving a speech on an occasion or participating in a quiz competition.
Such activities will take your confidence to the next level.
Never say NO!
Even if you’re not sure whether you can confidently do it or not, just give a try.
Also, don’t feel bad if you fail to give your 100 percent in that task because something is a thousand times better than nothing.
9. Face With Positivity
Obstacles will always be present in the journey of life, make sure you won’t get affected by NEGATIVITY.
Just keep walking with a sweet SMILE, success will automatically start flowing toward your direction.
Human beings are drawn to smile… So, face each and everyone with positivity and happiness.
Also, remember my golden statement which I always use to say:
Never ever compare yourself with anyone and always perceive yourself as a king or queen.
Be humble and maintain a good relationship with everyone.
It doesn’t matter with whom your conversion is going on… just be active and get involved in the conversation.
Never judge anyone! keep yourself motivated and make the person feel that you’re interested in talking with him.
Be a good person and think like the person to whom you are talking with is also no less than you. 🙂
One last thought:
“Whenever you can’t find the sunshine, be the sunshine.”
Now it’s your turn,
Implement each and everything practically in your life and get RESULTS.
Also, let me know by leaving a comment below NOW!
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